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I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
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Product Description A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don’t Want to Talk About It is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them.Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons. Amazon.com Review When Terrence Real was studying to be a therapist, he accepted the notion that women suffered depression at rates several times that of men. Now he believes that conventional wisdom is wrong, that there has been a great cultural cover-up of depression in men. Real is convinced of the existence of a mental illness that is passed from fathers to sons in the form of rage, workaholism, distanced relationships from loved ones, and self-destructive behaviors ranging from stupid choices at work and in love to drug and alcohol abuse. Men reading I Don't Want to Talk About It will probably recognize themselves in every chapter, while women will recognize their partners--and, of course, both sexes will see their fathers in a new light. Review Richard Higgins The Boston Globe An important book about men and depression that is uplifting...Men will recognize the other men found here: laconic bullet-biters, 'rage-aholics,' emotional runaways, and badly fathered sons turned into disconnected dads who spill their emotional truths onto the page.Michael Kimmel San Francisco Chronicle Book Review Extraordinary...brings to light a hidden history of male depression...A powerful book.Pamela Warrick Los Angeles Times The most provocative in a flood of new books on depression...The only volume that speaks exclusively to and about depressed men. About the Author Terrence Real is a psychotherapist in private practice. He has taught couples and family therapy, principally at the Family Institute of Cambridge, for twenty years. He lives with his wife and two sons in Newton, Massachusetts. Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. I Don't Want to Talk About ItOvercoming the Secret Legacy of Male DepressionBy Terrence RealScribnerCopyright ©1998 Terrence RealAll right reserved.ISBN: 0684835398From Chapter One: Men's Hidden DepressionWhen I stand beside troubled fathers and sons I am often flooded with a senseof recognition, All men are sons and, whether they know it or not, most sons areloyal. To me, my father presented a confusing jumble of brutality and pathos. Asa boy, I drank into my character a dark, jagged, emptiness that haunted me forclose to thirty years. As other fathers have done to their sons, myfather-through the look in his eyes, the tone of his voice, the quality Of histouch-passed the depression he did not know he had on to me, just as surely ashis father had passed it on to him -- a chain of pain, linking parent to childacross generations, a toxic legacy.In hindsight, it is clear to me that, among other reasons, I became atherapist so I could cultivate the skills I needed to heal my own father -- to healhim at least sufficiently to get him to talk to me. I needed to know about hislife to help und
